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10 Things to keep in Mind When Loving a Highly Creative Person

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This was reblogged on a blog that I follow, Angie Trafford, and was originally posted on I Heart Intelligence.com:     The contents kind of hit home so I thought I would post it here as well.    Enjoy.

It has been proven that highly creative people’s brains work quite differently than other brains. That special brain wiring that can create such wonderful art, music, and writing can often lead to strain in a relationship, because of those differences. If you’ve ever loved a highly creative person, you know that it can seem like they live in their own little world at times, and that thought isn’t far from the truth. Here are some things to keep in mind when you are in love with a highly creative person:

 1. Their Minds Don’t Slow Down
The highly creative mind is one that is running at full speed all the time. Although it can be a source of crazy, spontaneous fun – it can also be a burden. Highly creative people rarely keep normal sleep cycles, and are often prone to bouncing from one task to another throughout the day. It can be exhausting to try to keep up.

2. They are Cyclical
The flow of creativity is a cycle, full of highs and lows. Some people may consider this “manic” behavior, but in reality, it is just how the creative process works. Keep this in mind as your partner goes through these natural ebbs and flows. The low periods aren’t permanent.

3. They Need Time Alone
Creative minds need air to breathe. Whether it is their own little work space or an escape to somewhere quiet, they need a time and place to be alone with their thoughts. Some people are inclined to think that if nothing is being said that there is something wrong, but with creative people that is not the case. They are just working within their own head.

4. They are Intensely Focused
When a creative person is on task, they are fiercely intense. The change from being scatter-brained to hyper-focused can be difficult to deal with, so just understand that it is how their brains work. Don’t get frustrated.

5. Emotions Run Deeper
Creative people feel everything on a deeper level. What doesn’t seem like a big deal to you, can be crushing to them. It’s that same passion that goes into whatever they create that drives them to love you, so understand that with the good – comes the bad.

6. They Speak in Stories
Creative people often express themselves in experiences, instead of just saying what they want to say. It is a way of sharing themselves that personifies who they are. At times, it can be difficult to figure out what a creative person is saying, so don’t be afraid to read between the lines.

7. They Battle with Themselves
Being creative can be a serious internal struggle. Motivation, enthusiasm, direction, and drive can all be issues for creative people. Some days it is hard for them just to get out of bed, and other days you can’t get them to slow down. Be patient in the lulls, because there is usually a burst of activity right around the corner.

8. Intuition is Important
Creative people, because of their intense emotional tendencies, tend to rely on intuition over logic. They go with their gut. Some people consider this to be more on the “impulsive” end of the spectrum. The creative mind doesn’t rely on logic to make a decision, it relies on experience and passion.

9. They Struggle with Confidence
When people create, especially for a living, they are always struggling with acceptance. That is art. They have to wear their hearts on their sleeves, and so they always question whether or not what they are producing is good enough. Being supportive is the key to loving a creative person.

10. Growing Up is Hard to Do
Creative people are almost always children at heart. That care-free nature can seem immature and impetuous – but it is all part of the deal. Understand that the aspects of their creative brains that you love are the same ones that make them somewhat irresponsible when it comes to being an adult.

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Would You Die For Her?

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Would you die for her?

I hear men say these things all the time:
I would jump in front of a truck for her”
“I would take a bullet for her”
“I would do anything for her”
But that is the easy part.
You know, dying for her.

Ask yourself these questions.
Would you rub her feet after a long day of work?
Would you eat the meal she cooked for you, no matter what?
Would you forgive her for doing something wrong? or would you seek revenge?
Would you hold her when she is sick and grumpy?
Do you think she is beautiful, all of the time?
Would you support her in anything she wants to do?
Are you sympathetic when it is “that time” of the month?
Do you put her needs before yours?
These.   These are the hard things.

I think I speak for most women.
“I would take my own bullet any day.
In exchange for feeling like a Princess everyday.”

 

Now We’re Even

20141101_234347It seems like just yesterday

I was so much older than you

But now it is today

And you are 47 too!

The thought of growing old(er) is terrifying.  With every day, every month, every year there is “something” it seems.  But if I am to grow old I couldn’t ask for a better man or more understanding partner to do it with.  I hope we can make each other laugh and smile for many more years to come.

Live.  Love. Laugh.    Most of all … Laugh.

 

Because He Loves Me

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For My Husband on Valentine’s Day

The one who loves me. 

Lives with me.

And laughs with me.

You are not expected
To make me happy
But because you love me
I am happy
I smile
I laugh
And I play

You are not expected
To be my purpose for living
But because you love me
I have purpose
I am driven
I am accepted
And I am encouraged

You are not expected
To provide for me
But because you love me
I am provided for
I am safe
I am warm
And I am secure

You are not expected
To take care of my every need
But because you love me
My needs are met
I have a friend
I have a lover
And I have a confidant

You are not expected
To share my feelings
But because you love me
You understand my feelings
I can cry
I can scream
And I can isolate myself

You are not expected
To make me a priority
But because you love me
I am a priority
I am honored
I am respected
And I am adored

You are not expected
To cook for me
….. let’s not get carried away

I have no need to pressure you
With any ridiculous expectations
Because you go above and beyond
Any expectation I could ever have

Because you love me

Healthy Relationships

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We finished our series at church on the 9 Habits of a Healthy Relationship a few weeks ago.  The series was so amazing that I wanted to document it on my blog so I could refer back to it in the years to come.   Today, I finally completed number 9 and would like to share all 9 Habits with you.  You may view these on the sidebar to the left of my page, or by selecting the menu button on the mobile site.  Or you may watch the sermon online at Sugar Creek Baptist Church (click on the link)  Enjoy!

Galatians 5:22-23 “But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives, He will produce this kind of fruit (results) in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

The ABC’s

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Always there for me
Because he thinks I’m worthy
Chasing my far fetched dreams
Desiring to make me feel special
Everyone needs a man like him
Freeing me from weakness
Getting my every thought
Happy just to be with me
I don’t know how I got so lucky
Just being a silly girl
Kind of a loner at times
Liking silence in the noise
Moving mountains for me
No one knows him like I do
Opening his heart to those in need
Protecting those he loves
Quitting is not in his vocabulary
Running is not an option
Sacrificing his needs for mine
Triumphant at all he does
Unaware he is so awesome
Vividly knows his purpose
Wanting the best for his family
X-rated in the bedroom
Yearning for happiness
Zany for his Dallas Cowboys

Perfection!  But for the letter Z.

The Proposal

img044What do you do when you are both in your forties and contemplating getting married, again, for the third time?  I must say he did it well.

I didn’t live with him, but he did propose to me in the house I helped him pick out.  The same place we would later call our home.   I was standing in the kitchen waiting to go out on a dinner date.  He was leaning on the counter and seemed to be a bit nervous.  He had a blue piece of paper in his hand and I thought to myself “… it can’t be divorce papers we weren’t even married yet …”   It was a poem he had printed from the internet.  When he read it aloud to me it didn’t matter that he hadn’t written it because I could feel the love he had for me.   He proposed and I told him I would have to think about it.  Haha. Just kidding.  I eagerly accepted.

Turns out it was a really good thing I had accepted his proposal.   Our pre-planned dinner date turned out to be a party at Baker Street Pub where we had our first meeting the year before.  He had arranged for friends and family to be there before we arrived.   I’m glad he was so confident that I would accept his proposal!

After a night of fun and celebration we went back to his house to wake up to a beautiful sunrise.  One I can never forget because now I get to wake to it every morning.

We were married in a small ceremony with family and friends four months later.   His two sons stood up for him. And my two sons stood up for me.  Both of us had lost our fathers earlier in life but we were both blessed to have our mothers with us.

That was August 22, 2008.  Five years ago today.    We have been through alot and will no doubt go through much more.  And although our story is not your traditional fairy tale romance, we definitely live up to that old cliche of saving the best for last!